Any time I’m recommended a book I read it.

Any time I’m recommended a book I read it. The latest was 4,000

Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman. Having done many deep dives into the very idea of time, I found no new ahas, but many great reminders, and thoughts generated, that will allow you to be in control of your time:

Live your life as it unfolds in time
The bane of limitless productivity, distraction, and speed
Do you ever really feel “on top of things“?
We can all feel like King Sisyphus
You will never get it all done…and that is OK!
We ARE a limited amount of time
It’s all borrowed time
Distraction is the biggest problem
The obsessive planner demands reassurances from the future. Good luck.
Be prepared for surprise endings.
Anything can happen. What will be will be. Que sera, sera.
The power of chance occurrence
Plans are not guarantees
“I don’t mind what happens”
What is the value of time spent doing…?
Give time it’s due
You can’t rush your way to peace
You will never eradicate all your problems
Who wants to be free… and alone?
Where are you too comfortable?
Where are you setting impossible standards for yourself?
Why am I myself?
Have you accepted who you are yet?
Where are you playing the when and then game?

Like I said, great reminders!

Five Emotional Traps that Get in the Way of Success

Much what much of what gets in the way of success is… us! Here a five emotional traps we should strive to avoid:

  1. The desire to be comfortable– as Paulo Coelho said, “only the mediocre are ever truly comfortable”. If your primary goal is to be comfortable then you can expect to get run over by someone not interested in being comfortable. There is no growth without discomfort, so better get used to it. Where do you fear discomfort? Whose judgment is involved? Are you willing to move past it?
  2. Not realizing that the only power you will ever have is right here, right now– it is so easy to project ourselves into a painful past or fearful future. All this does is create emotional noise which gets in the way of what really matters – getting things done now. While it is important to have plans, it’s even more important to ask what’s the most important thing I should be doing right now? And then do it. Without delay. Every time.
  3. Somebody else is getting in the way– it is so easy to blame others. It is “they” who get in the way of our success. It is “they” who don’t see the full measure of our value. Guess what – it’s not their job to notice your value or to play hero for you. Take action despite others. You don’t look for what they’re doing that’s “unfair”. You look for the opportunity you will create.
  4. You don’t want to “get over it” …just quite yet– deeply successful people can weather almost any storm. That’s because they have built a strong emotional foundation. They don’t harbor on the past, but they do learn from it. Then they dust themselves off and get going again. So, what if you made a mistake or blew an opportunity. Get over it, learn the lesson and move on!
  5. There is a hidden entitlement mentality– this is where “they” owe you something simply because of how wonderful you are. God’s gift to this planet. You wouldn’t admit to that…but there it is. Remember this: success is your responsibility and nobody else’s.

While there are plenty of other saboteurs, these five are a good place to start. Where do you find yourself trapped?

Hero Story

Don’t Let Your Story Kill Your Sales

Over the last few years, I’ve been doing a great deal of coaching and notice the power of the stories my clients tell themselves. So I whipped up this presentation for a client’s sales team… and they loved it.

https://vimeo.com/442811040 If you are up for it, I would love your feedback too! Brutal honesty will be appreciated. How can I make it even better?

 

Time to Get Creative!

This is a great time to get your creative juices flowing. Here is a link to a quick and fun book, with more than 100 questions to spur your creativity!

Enjoy and let me know what ideas you come up with.

Free download of the PDF, with no registration required! https://www.donphin.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/A-to-Z-121217.pdf