Five Emotional Traps that Get in the Way of Success

Much what much of what gets in the way of success is… us! Here a five emotional traps we should strive to avoid:

  1. The desire to be comfortable– as Paulo Coelho said, “only the mediocre are ever truly comfortable”. If your primary goal is to be comfortable then you can expect to get run over by someone not interested in being comfortable. There is no growth without discomfort, so better get used to it. Where do you fear discomfort? Whose judgment is involved? Are you willing to move past it?
  2. Not realizing that the only power you will ever have is right here, right now– it is so easy to project ourselves into a painful past or fearful future. All this does is create emotional noise which gets in the way of what really matters – getting things done now. While it is important to have plans, it’s even more important to ask what’s the most important thing I should be doing right now? And then do it. Without delay. Every time.
  3. Somebody else is getting in the way– it is so easy to blame others. It is “they” who get in the way of our success. It is “they” who don’t see the full measure of our value. Guess what – it’s not their job to notice your value or to play hero for you. Take action despite others. You don’t look for what they’re doing that’s “unfair”. You look for the opportunity you will create.
  4. You don’t want to “get over it” …just quite yet– deeply successful people can weather almost any storm. That’s because they have built a strong emotional foundation. They don’t harbor on the past, but they do learn from it. Then they dust themselves off and get going again. So, what if you made a mistake or blew an opportunity. Get over it, learn the lesson and move on!
  5. There is a hidden entitlement mentality– this is where “they” owe you something simply because of how wonderful you are. God’s gift to this planet. You wouldn’t admit to that…but there it is. Remember this: success is your responsibility and nobody else’s.

While there are plenty of other saboteurs, these five are a good place to start. Where do you find yourself trapped?

Are You Ready for Some Serious Change?

“Only the mediocre are ever truly comfortable.” Paulo Coelho

I love reading futurist literature. The article below is a must read wake up call for appreciating what is coming our way. Buckminster Fuller coined the phrase “accelerating acceleration” years ago. And it is upon us. This past year accelerated some of the changes already underway, including remote working, globalization, unprecedented speed and processing power, Ai, and the division of wealth and politics.

How will you and your work evolve given the accelerating change? What do you see five years down the road? Perhaps more importantly, how will you manage yourself when being forced to continuously evolve? Will you double down on your discomfort or decide to go in the opposite direction? Chuck it all and become a digital nomad?

PS some of my favorite futurists: Thomas Frey’s work. He said his answer to the above was to “outlearn others and let your knowledge compound: Learning is the ultimate productivity hack. In other words, it provides the greatest leverage. It’s the tool that the greatest innovators and business thinkers of our time (Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, and others) use to get ahead.” His rule is to spend at least 5 hrs. per week learning. (Something I have done for more than 30 years.) -Daniel Burris is a fellow San Diegan and helps us understand the power of trends. Peter Diamandis is a bold thinker and doer. He has started over 20 companies in the areas of longevity, space, venture capital and education. Ray Kurzweil is the inventor type and mentioned in the above article. His website has lots of learning. Ray wants to live forever.

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This article previews an online keynote I’ll be doing for the Meetings Today Virtual MidAmerica Event on the 23rd. See you there!



Hero Story

Don’t Let Your Story Kill Your Sales

Over the last few years, I’ve been doing a great deal of coaching and notice the power of the stories my clients tell themselves. So I whipped up this presentation for a client’s sales team… and they loved it. If you are up for it, I would love your feedback too! Brutal honesty will be appreciated. How can I make it even better?